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How do you weigh in on the Vance-couch conversation?

08.06.2025 07:37

How do you weigh in on the Vance-couch conversation?

But what if he had? Why are we shaming him for this? Why would we shame anyone for this?

Masturbation isn’t bad. It provides most of the benefits of sex, many of which actively improve human health, with zero risk of disease or pregnancy. It is an objectively good thing that most of us ought to do more often. Not for pleasure, though pleasure is also good, but for our health.

This, if he’d done it, would be perfectly okay.

I saw a post on X which says "control your lust & you'll understand how boring 90% of women are." What do you think about it? Do you agree or disagree? Why?

We need to stop shaming people for healthy activities they do in the privacy of their own homes.

It’s a creative form of masturbation that may feel pretty darn good.

Vance didn’t, or that’s the story. And honestly, I believe it. He’s a bit too uptight for that sort of thing.

I like this guy and his personality is AMAZING. He’s everything I want EXCEPT I’m not 100% attracted to him. I’ve dated some really hot guys and I’m wondering if that’s ruined dating for me? What do I do?

Creativity is also good, especially as the story would cause no harm to the couch and didn’t involve any direct contact with it. There’s no ick factor here, just a young person having fun in a way that doesn’t harm or impose upon anyone else.

Decadent Girl by Ramon Casas. Public domain.

I don’t see what’s wrong with banging couches.

I’ve a dismissive avoidant partner who said that he’s overwhelmed by our relationship and that he wants to break up, how do I get him back?